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It should not take a head injury
*after personally sustaining a head injury & coma*
to figure this out...

 
 
 
 
 
 


After a Drill Sergeant threw Me into the metal part of the bunk when I was in Basic Training for the United States of America's Army branch at Fort Sill Oklahoma #FortSill #FortSillOK #FortSillOklahoma #OK #Oklahoma in the year of 2000 on Psalm Sunday, I have dealt with the situations as best as I have been capable to do so while taking care of the situations and asking for assistance as per the required explanations of the information to such facts first.  While making the attempts to get assistance for the aspects thereof as to the reality, the aspects of where and when as to the multiple attempts to ask for assistance for me.  As my journal blog for when I was ready to bring such as to my other works forward since as to the lengths of time as to where my modeling was as to the modeling page information, just as the other pages have the information as to such specifics, and just as this journal blog of mine is as to such facts.


If I had real friends (if as to having met in person face to face in person in real life as to the aspects of this particular reference such as from the state of Texas as to the state of Washington as to the years of 2000 through 2013 if I met within the state of Texas for such references), real (the areas of the tristate region as before the year of 2000) family, and real relationships in real life that recognized me as to the aspects of if as to the face to face in person who started in truth as I had started such in truth as to the after effects from my Psalm Sunday 2000 head injury, as well as the subarachnoid hemorrhage in the frontal lobe of my brain that took 8.5 years to dissipate; then I guesstimate there would be the easier factors as to being capable for me to speak with others in truth in person face to face in person and/or through online measures as to such factors I suppose.  Though would such as to the knowledge of the ways as to how they began such discussions with me as to would there be such a situation, for them to consider as to such if factors as to such discussions with me in truth?


As to some suggestions and commentary within "Finding A Silver Lining" one of several of my bo0ks I personally authored/wrote/compiled as I can only speak and write in truth as per such clarifications as to the reality as to the specifics of such discussions/writings/videos as per my Official You Tube where I have satirical commentary where I comment about the factors as to having dealt with others' opinions about their pop culture references of #NJ #NJstate #NewJersey #NewJerseystate New Jersey, though as to for the most part I have actually preferred to be asked with politeness if as to having read my books and/or seen my website as just the same in reference to the timeframes when I was modeling as to having respect as to what I consider as respect, referencing if as to such polite manners as to discussions if as to such having been noticed because of the factors in my opinion as to having real discussions as communication would be if my website was seen before the year of 2023 as I first began my website in 2015; as in my journal blog posts as to the reality of the years of 2010 through 2013, as to the aspects of introductions as to those timeframes when as to various factors as I did not take selfies as I was actually working with photographers as to my creations of my outfits as per the description on the link to my modeling page(s) as to the references regarding my journal blog updates in the years of 2019 through 2022 as the timeframe onward as to the year of 2023 as to the factors as to how such journal blog entries will be as to such factors as to the aspects of the various topic points.


Go read through the multiple journal blogs on my website after finishing scrolling to get to the journal blog area, now!

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 I was born and raised in New Jersey and grew up going throughout the tristate northeast areas mainly, and as to how the reality of when the importance of the situations as to the aspects of reviewing as to such facts regarding the logistics for several factors as to the considerations; the years of 2019 through 2022 as to the review process as to the aspects of the timeframe, prior to the timeframe of the 20 year memorial of 11 September 2001 also known as 9/11 as well as before the 30 year memorial of February 1993, as to the northeast areas mostly known as to New York City #NYC #NewYork #NY #NYstate #NYU though also as to the #Pentagon Pentagon, as well as Pennsylvania #Pennstate #Pennsylvaniastate as to the reality of how many New Jersey-ians commute in either direction, depending upon what location for the commute. 


The factors though I have said at times, I re-re-re-re-re-re-grew up in the state of  #Texas #TX #Texasstate Texas as to such factors as to the timeframes, as well as all 26 of my SCUBA #SCUBA #SCUBADiving  Diving certifications I earned were through one school within the state of Texas as I also earned winning first place in a Texas Chili cookoff with more than 20 entries as well as my chili recipe as I am adamant about my recipes as to such aspects just as I am specific as to what it actually takes for me to cook in a BBQ as to the required preparations for when I have BBQed.   


I can sarcastically write, those who know of the Rules of the BBQ as to where I grew up as to the Rules of the BBQ as to such factors to the considerations of such preparations.  However that is to cooking food as to the differences of my journal blog entries, as to the factors as to proverbial aspects of food for thought as the difference of real food in real life as to the facts of the situations to such attention to the details as well as attention to the information.


Such facts as to the metaphors in some of such factors that only after reviewing such information as to the aspects of the fiction book series that were as to for My personal life as to such dreamland sorts of factors as to the differences of such hypotheticals, the references thereof as to such regards as to the logistical emotional with the real situations as per the names I was informed of at the timeframes referenced review as to My journal blog as to the situations overall.  


If as to my journal blog being found and read as to where what I consider as common sense, as to the aspects of my satirical saying   how it should not take a head injury to figure out. 
 

*(sometimes utilizing articles discussing facts)*
By:  (Reverend) Susan MeeLing
also known as

The One & Only

(YouTube)   Lady Dori Belle


 

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REMEMBER:

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After the head injury caused a coma while I learned how to deal with the headaches, migraines, cognitive disorders, memory problems, and other medical conditions I went from College Algebra with Trigonometry & Calculus down to 2nd grade math.  Here is how logic works for someone like me::

~  It took awhile for the doctor's recommendation to use sticky notes, to help remember.

~  It took several months to realize sticky notes moved, let alone to remember to speak with the doctor.

~  After I finally remembered to ask the doctor about the note problem, notebooks were recommended.

~  When I could remember to pick up a notebook, it took a long time to learn similar to sticky notes, notebooks are not always where they were placed.

~  After I was able to organize the notebooks over several months I still had not learned notebooks are not always readily available, at the necessary time.

~  When I remembered to speak with the doctor about the notebook problem the doctor had few other suggestions, to assist memories better.

~  After several events and adding up sticky note and notebook location problems, I realized my skin goes everywhere I do.

~  Wanting my tattoos to only be for me and not for public consumption I started the ink on my legs, able to hide easier.

~  It would not be until many tattoos and several years later I would realize my memory problems were usually not as bad when wearing shorts, capri pants, or a skirt.

~  Between 3-5 years after my first tattoo I had the first tattoo completed on my arms, and my memory has slowly progressed towards an easier memory jolt.

 

 

When I say "it should not take a head injury to figure this out" it is partially in humor from personal experiences, towards understanding.

 

If I can laugh at my mistakes after recognizing and dealing with them, so can you.

 

You have the knowledge, understanding, and wisdom I lack in order to put everything together to fix the problems seen with abilities I do not have. 

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Utilize the information within the blog to find genuine repairs and instead of complaining of the "hurtful" commentary, prevent the issues from reoccurring.

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Then again, it should not take a head injury to figure that one out.

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Do make sure to link my journal blog entry articles to yours if you refer to my works for any of your research in the slightest, for proper credit. 

 

Thank you, in advance.

REMEMBER:

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​

After the head injury caused a coma while I learned how to deal with the headaches, migraines, cognitive disorders, memory problems, and other medical conditions I went from College Algebra with Trigonometry & Calculus down to 2nd grade math.  Here is how logic works for someone like me::

~  It took awhile for the doctor's recommendation to use sticky notes, to help remember.

~  It took several months to realize sticky notes moved, let alone to remember to speak with the doctor.

~  After I finally remembered to ask the doctor about the note problem, notebooks were recommended.

~  When I could remember to pick up a notebook, it took a long time to learn similar to sticky notes, notebooks are not always where they were placed.

~  After I was able to organize the notebooks over several months I still had not learned notebooks are not always readily available, at the necessary time.

~  When I remembered to speak with the doctor about the notebook problem the doctor had few other suggestions, to assist memories better.

~  After several events and adding up sticky note and notebook location problems, I realized my skin goes everywhere I do.

~  Wanting my tattoos to only be for me and not for public consumption I started the ink on my legs, able to hide easier.

~  It would not be until many tattoos and several years later I would realize my memory problems were usually not as bad when wearing shorts, capri pants, or a skirt.

~  Between 3-5 years after my first tattoo I had the first tattoo completed on my arms, and my memory has slowly progressed towards an easier memory jolt.

 

 

When I say "it should not take a head injury to figure this out" it is partially in humor from personal experiences, towards understanding.

 

If I can laugh at my mistakes after recognizing and dealing with them, so can you.

 

You have the knowledge, understanding, and wisdom I lack in order to put everything together to fix the problems seen with abilities I do not have. 

​

Utilize the information within the blog to find genuine repairs and instead of complaining of the "hurtful" commentary, prevent the issues from reoccurring.

​

Then again, it should not take a head injury to figure that one out.

​

Do make sure to link my journal blog entry articles to yours if you refer to my works for any of your research in the slightest, for proper credit. 

 

Thank you, in advance.

Remember, since I was either six or seven years old I have been giving warnings as to the best of my ability as to the visions I had which began when I was in second grade of Elementary school.  The first warning I gave officially as to my nightmare vision compared to my dream vision was in the year of 1988 or 1989, compared to the online writings and my books as well as my journal blog entries year timeline for the information.


If anyone is upset please direct your upset towards those who had made the choices to constantly needlessly block my warnings and/or try to explain otherwise as to their trying to curb their responsibilities, in comparison to the responsible and respectful choices as best as I could possibly do so as a child starting as to such information at the age of when I was six in 1988 or seven years old in 1989.


I made every attempt to inform as best as I possibly could, though hopefully the clarifications throughout my various books and writings as well as journal blog entries compared to the amount of people in multiple areas which I had spoken with about in person from the years of 1988 or 1989 through to 2012 more continuously before 2013. 


In the year of 2019 is when I began reviewing such details and onward through the years since 2019 more officially, however I made the attempts to give the warnings and what others' choices have been as to whatever proof thereof to who you should be speaking with as to what they told you in comparison as to the upset and anger with in comparison.


How many assistances I have made attempt towards betterment as to the clarifications from the year of 1988 or 1989 onward did it truly have to take for each to genuinely pay attention, as I have been making the best attempts to assist for the best possibilities how?

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Combining Original Accounts for Clarification: #30 of 88

In reference of combining all of my journals I wrote through my original #fetlife account which I will post the link at the bottom for the clarifications thereof, I am going to have the transparency brought forward as to what can be seen from the original posting dates as to the current timeframe of this day 28 November 2021 for those to see as to my original #Facebook accounts of Susan MeeLing as well as Lady Dori Belle for the additional ability to see the connection links as to what I had discussed for many years and decades in person as well as online as to such factors as best as I could as to the circumstances. Possibly such details will assist to make sense, in the comparisons thereof as to the amounts of details though in addition I do not pretend or hide myself from my truth which others should realize it is important to be honest and truthful in many more ways than just in one or two moments as it is imperative to be more capable to recognize the truth in such aspects of life for far more than some might have realized despite all of my warnings as to what I knew to bring forward to assist as best as possible.




I will begin with posting my newer updated journals from my original account and work backwards as to the irony I noticed. There will be plenty to read in the ways of, whether or not you choose to venture into the areas of the website fetlife.



Posted on 4 June 2013



pro-doming Explained By A pro and My Personal Opinions...




Though this entry by Michelle Lacy is meant to 'assist' the view of others within the BDSM Lifestyle, who do not enjoy dealing with the after-effect of the dominatrix's usage of people for monetary gain.




As MichelleLacy said;

QUOTE: "Due to a lot of people writing completely false stuff about Dominatrices and bashing us all over fetlife, I decided that since many people REALLY HAVE NO CLUE what it is that we do, I decided to clear up some things here. This is also great for new guys who are interested in learning. I am a lifestyle Domme too and sometimes I am ashamed of "my own people."




It is not a secret that I am not a fan nor do I look at professional dominatrixes as anything more than another version of a prostitute. One is selling their services in order to gratify someone's sexual desires, correct?




If it looks like a duck...




I, personally, have had to deal with ex-professional dominatrixes jons; whom have been used up until they could not afford to purchase the dominatrix's time.




I, personally, as well as others that I have spoken with; have had several (MANY) fetmail messages from random schmucks who have been associated with a professional; who have the thought that ALL Female Dominants are for sale; when obviously, there is no price tag for some.




For over a year, I had in HUGE writing on my profile that I was NOT a professional; and yet still, because of the way some were introduced as being a jon, those seem to think that all Female Dominants are easily bought, when that is simply not the case.




I finally took it down after over a year because I did not want anything professional to be associated with my profile, as far as the Female Domination aspects.




All of the points within this thread assist my point of view on why I am personally against 'professional domination'.

QUOTE: "WHAT IS A PRO DOMME? A Pro Domme or Dominatrix is a woman (there are a few men, although rare) who study, train, and educate themselves to death on all things Kink/Fetish/BDSM and beyond in order to provide a wonderful appointment for a paying client. We often have extensive wardrobes, and work out of Dungeons. Some of us are also LIFESTYLE DOMMES and some of us are just kinky and open minded.




Ummm...I have taken many classes and I have gone through many studies through Mentor(s), books, research, classes, demos, and so on...




I have dove into kinks that are not my own because of those whom I was involved with.




I have studied and researched for YEARS; and I continue to do so about all that I can come across...




...so...why is it only that 'professionals' are the only ones who '...study, train, and educate themselves to death on all thinks Kink/Fetish/BDSM and beyond...'




Is it not possible for a non-professional Female Dominant to care about all aspects? Or is it being stated that those who are not a professional do not care?




And the whole '...we have extensive wardrobes...'




Ummm...has anyone SEEN my collection of clothes?




I am NOT a professional Female Dominant...and yet...my corset collection of custom made spiral steel boned are above 70+ in my closet...and some (a large percentage, but not over 50%) are reversible corsets as well...and the 70+ only include my over-bust custom made corsets...not including under-bust corsets...fetish clothes...costumes...dresses...latex...and so on...




...so...how is it that professionals are so different from Lifestyle Female Dominants, in those aspects?




By that token, does that make me a professional, too?




Nope...




QUOTE: "WHAT IS A LIFESTYLE DOMME? A lifestyle Domme is a woman who takes on a Dominant role in her personal life, who seeks a kink-minded partner to play with, date, or just other kink-minded people to have a good time with. A lifestyle Domme may attend fetish events, workshops, or classes to learn the techniques she may be interested in. A lifestyle Domme will play with only the kinky people she wants to.




Umm...so...the fact that I personally live my life as a 24/7 Female Dominant is only allowed if I am a professional?




Do I seek like minded people? Absolutely...




Do I go to classes/events/workshops/etc. about interesting topics for me? Absolutely...




Do I only play with those whom I want to play? Absolutely...however, I do not exclude associating with those who have "different kinks"...




So...according to these 2 definitions...how is it that I am not a professional dominatrix and how is it that I am only a



Lifestyle Female Dominant; according to these definitions?




...oh...that's right...it was 'forgotten' to be written that the main reason as to what the difference between a professional and a Lifestyle Female Dominant...***professionals are PAID for their time to play with someone else...and...Lifestyle Female



Dominants...well...don't...




Once again...if it walks like a duck...




Below, I have pointed out other aspects of this thread that are extremely poignant to why I view a professional dominatrix is nothing more than a glamorized hooker by Hollywood.




QUOTE: "WHY DO PEOPLE SEE PRO DOMMES and not a LIFESTYLE DOMME? In a nutshell: To live out a fantasy they always wanted to, but can not live out in real life due to:



** -Being in a kinkless (even sexless as well) marriage.**




This is the absolute and NUMBER 1 reason why I am against professional dominatrix. You willingly KNOW that the jon is married...you willingly assist the jon to cheat on their spouse by paying you and others like you for your 'services' to assist the jon in their sexual release from their 'frustrations'.

Professional dominatixes do not show ANY concern for the jons family, spouse, or anything beyond the paycheck that they are going to receive.




No honor.



No ethics.




No morals.



...PERIOD...




Yes, there are many who assist another to cheat on their spouse...difference is...those people usually do NOT get paid for their time...




Either way...still despicable...




** -Being told by their significant other or ex in the past that they are freaks and disgusting for wanting to __(insert something as simple as kiss feet to something as wild as being pissed on).**




Ummm...I have been called a "freak" by MANY for my kinks...same with those whom I have played with at times...same with those whom I have become friends with...and...well...not many of us who are 'Lifestylers' look to a professional...




...so...what is the difference???




...oh yeah...




...the paycheck...cash...whatever...




** -They do not want to attend lifestyle events because they want this to be done in absolute private, some have high profile jobs, some are just scared of running into others who may know them. (Many lifestylers say "I'd never pay for a Pro Domme, that's just STUPID!.." Yeah idiot, you are OUT IN THE OPEN ABOUT YOUR KINK! Do you have a wife at home that would leave you, a boss that would fire you, or any other issue? A fear of being in public? Public play and talking to others about your fantasy not what you seek because you just want a one on one experience? NO? Do you think someone is totally comfortable telling a girl he just met at a party that he wants to go home and eat her shit? NO? Then why judge someone else?**




Ok.




This is also MANY people within the Lifestyle and NOT only for jons...MANY whom I know and associated/played with cannot have their private life come out into public knowledge...point?




And it is pointed out exactly what is wrong with the profession, once again in here..."...Yeah idiot, you are OUT IN THE



OPEN ABOUT YOUR KINK! Do you have a wife at home that would leave you, a boss that would fire you, or any other issue?"




Not all are open about their kinks...yet you call people idiots because they look for something that fulfills them?




By that token, does that make me a professional, too?




Nope...




...so...if I am understanding what has been written...the whole wife leaving...goes back to the original aspect of what I believe is wrong with professionals...




** -They don't want to meet a lifestyle woman for playtime because most want a relationship, (not what they are looking for), and they want someone who will do their kink/fetish without throwing out what THEIR kinks and fetishes are. They don't want to take all this time looking, talking to and trying to meet a lifestyler. It is too involved. They are rejected by lifestyle Dommes because the lifestyle Domme may be there looking for a possible partner and will walk away or not converse with the man who is just looking to get to know them for some playtime and not looking for romance. Playing once in a while and leaving, will tend to hurt the feelings eventually of some lifestyle Dommes who become emotionally attached. Pro Dommes do not become romantically attached to our married or otherwise off-limits clients.**




Once again...I have played with those who did not want a romantic relationship...on many occasions...it was clearly stated prior and there were few issues...




By that token, does that make me a professional, too?




Nope...




And the jons do not want they play partner to throw out what the Dominants' kinks are? Really? I highly doubt that is strictly only for the professional side of things...




" -They seek us for absolute discretion (we see some PRETTY IMPORTANT or WELL KNOWN PEOPLE). A Pro Domme won't call, email or stalk their client after the session. If a lifestyle woman becomes attached, she might try getting me to leave my wife and I don't want to leave my wife, I just want to live out my kink is what many think, even if it isn't the case all the time."




Discretion...ok...understandable...jobs...friends...family...whatever...



By that token, does that make me a professional, too?




Nope...




However, once again, it is repeated, the same issue I have over and over and over and over and over again..."leave my wife and I don't want to leave my wife, I just want to live out my kink is what many think, even if it isn't the case all the time." ~furthering the lying to the spouse that a professional is allowing and pushing because of the paycheck at the end of the session.




" -There is mostly, no sex with our clients. I say mostly, because other Countries mix Domination and Prostitution. America does not. But for the most part, they aren't looking for sex. They just are looking for kink, or to serve, or engage in a fantasy or a fetish. Since there is no sex, many do not consider it cheating and they feel better about it consciously. Not every client sees it like that though and some will only see a Pro Domme when they are single."




Do they sexually get off and are sexually satisfied?




Is kink not described as, according to Merriam Webster; "... unconventional sexual taste or behavior..."??? Oh wait...that was quoted from the site...so...




Is prostitute not described in the dictionary as; "a person who willingly uses his or her talent or ability in a base and unworthy way, usually for money. "




...once again...quoted...




And fetish; "an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression "




So...a sex worker is classified as:



sex worker ** noun** : a person whose work involves sexually explicit behavior; especially : prostitute 1"




So...why do professional dominatrixes get so offended when they are called that?




Though the jon may not see it as cheating...ALL know that if the spouse found out; they would leave for the dishonesty mostly over the spouse's kinks and fetishes...




" -A Pro Domme is usually very experienced, and can deliver exactly what the client is looking for in a safe and super-skilled manner. How many 26yr old lifestyle women have bull-whipped the backsides of 300 men?"




Ummm...so...experience is measured by how many people one has serviced?




Just because one person has not played with (or been paid to play with) a large amount of people; does not make them inexperienced. It is the time, the education, the studying, and the LIVING of the Lifestyle that creates experience.




That is called a ***SLUT...***someone who has been with over 100 people...well...I guess in this case, the correct terminology would actually be *whore; as there is a monetary transaction involved.




There are "good sluts" and "bad sluts"; just like with anything else...however...in the end...if one is a slut...then just own it...




Money to perform actions is a job...yes...one receives experience through a job...but a job pays the person for their time...




Are there any variety of letters that are capitalized after the professional dominatrix's last name for the training and whatnot that was training was gone through?




Just like for a Lifestyler...no...there are no degrees or certifications that are legal or recognized as being an experienced player...it comes with TIME...




" -A dungeon is where many like to "escape" to for their experience. Most lifestyle women don't have super upscale fancy multi-room dungeons with $30k worth of toys and other Domme girls available in the next room. Some do! But your average lifestyle lady does not, although she might have great toys."




Once again...just like with the outfits...all of my toys are custom made to my specifications...from metal (sometimes with wood) paddles to carbon canes to etc. My personal toy collection is pretty much just at the $40K mark...but...let me guess...they are 'just great toys' and not what a professional would 'deem as a toy' in the BDSM Lifestyle...




By that token, does that make me a professional, too?




Nope...




" -Their session is therapeutic to them, and we are a type of therapist. Therapy costs money, and they don't mind paying a Professional."




A therapist?




Do professionals have a Psychology Degree?




No?




Do professionals go through licensing?




No?




Then it is wrong (and illegal) to claim oneself to be of a therapist of any kind without certifications/school/degrees...you know...the stuff that is REQUIRED BY LAW to be considered a REAL therapist and not a sexual releasing person who is paid to give the jon what is desired for gratification.




" -Our wardrobe is usually very extensive as well as expensive. Besides leather and latex, we have other Dominatrix outfits, dozens of high heels, shoes and boots, stockings, pantyhose, blouses, nurse and other role-playing outfits and so on."




Once again...I have brought up my closet...




QUOTE: "WHAT DOES A PRO DOMINATRIX KNOW HOW TO DO? (feel free to skip ahead if the list is too crazy for you to handle reading at 3 in the morning)..."




I am not going to re-post every aspect that was labeled in the writing; however, I have seen VERY FEW aspects of kink that has been listed that I have not studied/done with a partner...




By that token, does that make me a professional, too?




Nope...




QUOTE: "There are no differences, just different circumstances in life that enable people to live out their kink at different times and in different ways. If you tell me you are so busy with work and your kids that you haven't had time for fetish parties, munches and play etc in a long time and you miss it, does that make you not in the lifestyle anymore? No? Than what is the difference between that and a man who is busy with his job traveling and his own kids and only has time for a session here and there? Does that mean he doesn't fantasize or feel the urge constantly to submit or serve? Do you think he doesn't wish his life was different so he could serve a Mistress 24/7 as her live-in slave? Do you really think there is a difference just because they can only afford to submit for an hour? We make lasting bonds, friendships and D/s M/s relationships with some of our clients. Its just that they lead different lives. Some are more private about their desires too. The lifestyle community is too much for them. Like stated above, they will loose high profile jobs if found at a munch. Or this is just a private side of themselves they share with a chosen trusted person. Some serve Mistresses for so long that the Mistress or slave passes away and it's beyond devastating."




No. All that was stated above is the EXACT SAME for ALL PEOPLE within BDSM and it is not excluded to jons.




Not everyone in the Lifestyle, can go to events/parties/etc. because of previous commitments.




Not everyone within the Lifestyle is not without some form of problems that they need to focus on within their vanilla lives.




Not all who are within BDSM can live it 24/7 as they wish and want to...but those who are involved, there are MANY who wish that they could do their role more often...if not 24/7 as well...




So...no one who is within the BDSM Lifestyle makes '...lasting bonds, friendships, and D/s M/s relationships with...' those whom they play with/have played with?




QUOTE: "Pro Dommes have helped subs learn about themselves, not feel shame, embrace who they are, grow, challenged them, and even changed their lives for the better because we are caring understanding people, not the wallet munching cunts people make us out to be."




WHAT!?!?!




Seriously?




Because "regular" Lifestylers do not do this or go through this as well? This is 'only' secluded to the paying jons?




No.




Not by a long shot.




QUOTE: "If I am a teacher and I am doing what I love for a living, should I tell them to stop my paychecks? Is there something wrong with doing something for a living that you love and take pride in? We get to live out and see things you will NEVER see at a fetish party. We spend lots of time perfecting our craft, and money on our equipment."




Umm...a teacher is someone who has certifications backing their studies and training within their personal field...




There is no shame in being proud of one's profession, if they enjoy it. However, it is wondered why others within BDSM look at professional dominatrixes as '... the wallet munching cunts people make us out to be."* ~even though not all who are involved with BDSM have that view.




...even myself...believe it or not...




I just personally disagree with a professional dominatrix because of my stated facts/ideas/opinions based on experiences I have had.




QUOTE: "We get paid to fulfill the fantasies of others which is true, but we are very picky about who we take on and we try to take on guys who's interests reflect our own.




But...I thought that the jons were looking for someone who '...they want someone who will do their kink/fetish without throwing out what THEIR kinks and fetishes are...'???




What about that whole aspect?




Contradictions...putting it mildly...




** I love slave training, it doesn't mean my appointment tomorrow is for slave training. But I might have fun anyway, because I am very interested in all aspects of BDSM just like many other Pros. A good Pro domme knows that it's not the session theme but who you are playing with that can make or break the session.**




...same thing is applied to Lifestylers...so...




Our skills, equipment, and wardrobe plus our dungeon is a huge expense, that we must upkeep.

Umm...yes...it is...personally...I know...though...I am NOT a professional...




It is called a job...well...I should be a BIT more specific...a job where one does not steal money from a jons wife and children is usually preferred by most...but...



...then again...I guess that not all people can have morals or ethics...or integrity...





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...or can they have morals and ethics and integrity...???...I suppose it depends as to various factors to take into consideration...



However only more recently in the years of 2020 and 2021 have I brought forward more specific details as to why my opinions have been as to such factors as while I have known there are those who only choose single males and other such aspects, the view points of my personal opinion are of might rights through such aspects as to my combined viewpoints thereof from my knowledge as to situations my understanding as to the realities in multiple facets as well as my comprehension as to the impacts thereof as to having known a few in the 1980s and 1990s in the northeast area of the United States of America.



However how many people back then in the year of 2013 paid attention to that reality, or even honestly cared to process that aspects of reality in such a viewpoint of mine in conjunction as to all of the other combined factors I discussed with people in person as well as wrote about online prior to authoring and compiling my factual autobiographies as well as knowing the difference as to the genres for the other book series I authored? Then again I did not think that took a head injury to figure that out, as to having already discussed such in great details before that posting in the year of 2013 as well as this journal blog entry this year in 2021.

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Remember, since I was either six or seven years old I have been giving warnings as to the best of my ability as to the visions I had which began when I was in second grade of Elementary school.  The first warning I gave officially as to my nightmare vision compared to my dream vision was in the year of 1988 or 1989, compared to the online writings and my books as well as my journal blog entries year timeline for the information.


If anyone is upset please direct your upset towards those who had made the choices to constantly needlessly block my warnings and/or try to explain otherwise as to their trying to curb their responsibilities, in comparison to the responsible and respectful choices as best as I could possibly do so as a child starting as to such information at the age of when I was six in 1988 or seven years old in 1989.


I made every attempt to inform as best as I possibly could, though hopefully the clarifications throughout my various books and writings as well as journal blog entries compared to the amount of people in multiple areas which I had spoken with about in person from the years of 1988 or 1989 through to 2012 more continuously before 2013. 


In the year of 2019 is when I began reviewing such details and onward through the years since 2019 more officially, however I made the attempts to give the warnings and what others' choices have been as to whatever proof thereof to who you should be speaking with as to what they told you in comparison as to the upset and anger with in comparison.


How many assistances I have made attempt towards betterment as to the clarifications from the year of 1988 or 1989 onward did it truly have to take for each to genuinely pay attention, as I have been making the best attempts to assist for the best possibilities how?

REMEMBER:

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After the head injury caused a coma while I learned how to deal with the headaches, migraines, cognitive disorders, memory problems, and other medical conditions I went from College Algebra with Trigonometry & Calculus down to 2nd grade math.  Here is how logic works for someone like me::

~  It took awhile for the doctor's recommendation to use sticky notes, to help remember.

~  It took several months to realize sticky notes moved, let alone to remember to speak with the doctor.

~  After I finally remembered to ask the doctor about the note problem, notebooks were recommended.

~  When I could remember to pick up a notebook, it took a long time to learn similar to sticky notes, notebooks are not always where they were placed.

~  After I was able to organize the notebooks over several months I still had not learned notebooks are not always readily available, at the necessary time.

~  When I remembered to speak with the doctor about the notebook problem the doctor had few other suggestions, to assist memories better.

~  After several events and adding up sticky note and notebook location problems, I realized my skin goes everywhere I do.

~  Wanting my tattoos to only be for me and not for public consumption I started the ink on my legs, able to hide easier.

~  It would not be until many tattoos and several years later I would realize my memory problems were usually not as bad when wearing shorts, capri pants, or a skirt.

~  Between 3-5 years after my first tattoo I had the first tattoo completed on my arms, and my memory has slowly progressed towards an easier memory jolt.

 

 

When I say "it should not take a head injury to figure this out" it is partially in humor from personal experiences, towards understanding.

 

If I can laugh at my mistakes after recognizing and dealing with them, so can you.

 

You have the knowledge, understanding, and wisdom I lack in order to put everything together to fix the problems seen with abilities I do not have. 

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Utilize the information within the blog to find genuine repairs and instead of complaining of the "hurtful" commentary, prevent the issues from reoccurring.

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Then again, it should not take a head injury to figure that one out.

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Do make sure to link my journal blog entry articles to yours if you refer to my works for any of your research in the slightest, for proper credit. 

 

Thank you, in advance.

REMEMBER:

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After the head injury caused a coma while I learned how to deal with the headaches, migraines, cognitive disorders, memory problems, and other medical conditions I went from College Algebra with Trigonometry & Calculus down to 2nd grade math.  Here is how logic works for someone like me::

~  It took awhile for the doctor's recommendation to use sticky notes, to help remember.

~  It took several months to realize sticky notes moved, let alone to remember to speak with the doctor.

~  After I finally remembered to ask the doctor about the note problem, notebooks were recommended.

~  When I could remember to pick up a notebook, it took a long time to learn similar to sticky notes, notebooks are not always where they were placed.

~  After I was able to organize the notebooks over several months I still had not learned notebooks are not always readily available, at the necessary time.

~  When I remembered to speak with the doctor about the notebook problem the doctor had few other suggestions, to assist memories better.

~  After several events and adding up sticky note and notebook location problems, I realized my skin goes everywhere I do.

~  Wanting my tattoos to only be for me and not for public consumption I started the ink on my legs, able to hide easier.

~  It would not be until many tattoos and several years later I would realize my memory problems were usually not as bad when wearing shorts, capri pants, or a skirt.

~  Between 3-5 years after my first tattoo I had the first tattoo completed on my arms, and my memory has slowly progressed towards an easier memory jolt.

 

 

When I say "it should not take a head injury to figure this out" it is partially in humor from personal experiences, towards understanding.

 

If I can laugh at my mistakes after recognizing and dealing with them, so can you.

 

You have the knowledge, understanding, and wisdom I lack in order to put everything together to fix the problems seen with abilities I do not have. 

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Utilize the information within the blog to find genuine repairs and instead of complaining of the "hurtful" commentary, prevent the issues from reoccurring.

​

Then again, it should not take a head injury to figure that one out.

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Do make sure to link my journal blog entry articles to yours if you refer to my works for any of your research in the slightest, for proper credit. 

 

Thank you, in advance.

Model Author Susan MeeLing

It should not take a head injury to figure this out because I thought you are supposed, to be smarter.

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If there are those who find such interesting enough to research further to bring forward more information in reference to the forefront for more detailed information, as usual I request the courtesy of the same which I do in reference to how I refer to articles for reference points when writing my journal blog entries; for each one used for reference starting points, to research for clearer understanding from such knowledge.

 

That is common sense, good etiquette, and good karma; whilst lifting others upward, in positive ways.

Quotes which mean a lot to me:

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"The ultimate measure of an individual is not where they stand in moments of comfort and convenience, but where they stand at the time of challenge and controversy."

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"We must reject the idea that every time a law is broken society is guilty, rather than the law breaker.  Freedom is never-more than one generation away, from extinction.  We do not pass freedom on through our blood stream because freedom must be fought for, protected, and handed on for the next generation to do the same."

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"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.  Though best to be able to share in person with who matters, until that time occurs being able to see what is possible through such is a feat to notice.  One must be happy within oneself prior to being happy with another, though such can be enjoyed if living in one's own truth is as such. and then as to the capability to progress forward with another and/or others depending upon the situation(s) and individual(s)."  ~  A Quote From Me, Reverend Susan MeeLing also known as Lady Dori Belle

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